Ritual Resources for Jewish Celebrations

Here is a sampling of resources, reflecting a diversity of Jewish practice, for planning the ritual part of your simchah/celebration. Although this booklet addresses the purchasing decisions families make when planning Jewish celebrations, rather than the ritual decisions, these ritual choices, too, are a wonderful opportunity to creatively express your values.

Ritual Resources for Bar and Bat Mitzvah Celebrations

  • Book Danny Siegel’s Bar and Bat Mitzvah Book: A Practical Guide for Changing the World Through Your Simcha by Danny Siegel (2004: The Town House Press) Order through CMS Distributing,
  • Booklet Elijah’s Covenant Between the Generations: Curriculum & Ceremony for Teens on the Climate Crisis by Rabbis Jeff Sultar & Arthur Waskow (2008: The Shalom Center) For purchase at 215.844.8494,
  • Book Make Your Own Bar/Bat Mitzvah: A Personal Approach to Creating a Meaningful Rite of Passage by Goldie Milgram (2004: Jossey-Bass)
  • Book Putting God on the Guest List: How to Reclaim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Child’s Bar or Bat Mitzvah by Rabbi Jeffrey K. Salkin (1996: Jewish Lights Publishing)
  • Book For Teens Putting God on Your Guest List: How to Claim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Bar or Bat Mitzvah by Rabbi Jeffrey K. Salkin (1998: Jewish Lights Publishing)
  • Article “A Rosh Hodesh Ceremony for Bat Mitzvah Daughters,” by Sherry Rosen, in Kerem: Creative Explorations in Judaism (Volume 6, 5759/1999) For purchase at, or email Website Ritual Well: Ceremonies for Jewish Living. New rituals for “Bat/Bar Mitzvah” at

Ritual Resources for Jewish Commitment Ceremonies and Weddings

  • Booklet Bringing the Orange Under the Huppah: Progressive Jewish Alliance Resources for Marriage Equality (Progressive Jewish Alliance,
  • Book chapter “Brit Ahuvim: A Marriage Between Subjects,” chapter 5 in Engendering Judaism: An Inclusive Theology and Ethics by Rachel Adler (1998: Beacon Press)
  • Article “Kiddushin and Kesharin: Toward an Egalitarian Wedding Ceremony,” by Cheryl Beckerman, in Kerem: Creative Explorations in Judaism (Volume 5, 5757/Spring 1997) For purchase at, or email
  • Article “A New Take on Kiddushin: Halakhic, Egalitarian, Non-Heterosexist,” by Shalom Flank, in Kerem: Creative Explorations in Judaism (Volume 8, 5763/2002) For purchase at, or email
  • Book The New Jewish Wedding by Anita Diamant (2001: Simon & Schuster, Inc.)
  • Book The Creative Jewish Wedding Book: A Hands-on Guide to New & Old Traditions, Ceremonies & Celebrations by Gabrielle Kaplan-Mayer (2004: Jewish Lights Publishing)
  • Website Ritual Well: Ceremonies for Jewish Living. New rituals for “Intimacy & Partnering” at 
  • Program The wedding of Tamara Cohen and Gwynn Kessler, 2004 from The Jewish Women’s Archive:

Resources for Green and Just Jewish Living

Resources for Greener Commitment Ceremonies and Weddings

  • Book Eco-Chic Weddings: Simple Tips to Plan an Environmentally Friendly, Socially Responsible, Affordable, and Stylish Celebration by Emily Elizabeth Anderson (2007: Hatherleigh Press)
  • Website Great Green Wedding 
  • Book Green Weddings That Don’t Cost the Earth, by Carol Reed-Jones (1996: Paper Crane Press)
  • Book Organic Weddings: Balancing Ecology, Style and Tradition by Michelle Kozin (2003: New Society Publishers)
  • Online Magazine Portovert, “The exclusive wedding magazine for eco-savvy brides and grooms.” 
  • Book The Green Bride Guide: How to Create an Earth-friendly Wedding on any Budget by Kate L. Harrison (Forthcoming December 2008: Sourcebooks) Read excerpts and order at

Jewish Resources for Green and Just Purchasing

  • Booklet Caring for the Cycle of Life: Creating Environmentally Sound Life-Cycle Celebrations by Mark X. Jacobs (The Coalition on the Environment and Jewish Life,
  • Website Fair Trade Judaica by Ilana Schatz & David Lingren. 
  • Booklet Food for Thought: Hazon’s Curriculum on Jews, Food, and Contemporary Life by Nigel Savage & Anna Stevenson (2007: Hazon,
  • Article “Simplicity as a Jewish Path” in Reconstructionism Today by Rabbi Moti Rieber & Betsy Platkin Teutsch (Winter 2002/2003: Jewish Reconstructionist Federation) 
  • Book Jews, Money, and Social Responsibility: Developing a “Torah of Money” for Contemporary Life by Lawrence Bush & Jeffrey Dekro (1993: The Shefa Fund)
  • Booklet No Shvitz: Your One Stop Guide to Fighting Sweatshops (Progressive Jewish Alliance,

Resources for Greener Purchasing, Socially Responsible Investing, and Simpler Living

  • Directory National Green Pages™ (2008: Co-op America/Green America) Search free at, 800.58.GREEN
  • Booklet Guide to Ending Sweatshops (2008: Co-op America/Green America) Free download from, or order free for the price of shipping at, or call 800.58.GREEN.
  • Booklet Guide to Fair Trade (2007: Co-op America/Green America) Free download from, or order free for price of shipping at, or 800.58.GREEN.
  • Booklet Guide to Socially Responsible Investing (2008: Co-op America/Green America) $6 from, or 800.58.GREEN
  • Booklet Tips for Parenting in a Commercial Culture (Revised edition 2006: Center for a New American Dream) Free download from
  • Book What Kids Really Want That Money Can’t Buy: Tips for Parenting in a Commercial Culture, by Betsy Taylor (Center for a New American Dream) $14 from